Parenting is an exciting journey that comes with challenges as well. While one cannot prepare enough to be a father or mother, there’s still great value in preparing early. Getting a few lessons about parenting and understanding how to effectively make your child grow physically, socially, and mentally will leave you a more fulfilled person.
So, what do great parents do that sets them apart from not so good parents?
If you lack everything else as a parent but can afford love, then you have everything your child would ever need. It’s love that makes it possible for you to provide the rest to them. And the best way to demonstrate love? Showing them love through gestures and actions. Whether it’s through words, hugs, or gifts, you should always do it right.
Don’t replace love with objects. All you want to achieve is making your kid understand you are there for them regardless of the situation. They can feel the warmth of your love and be contented being your child. You can never be too loving.
Loving your child does not mean failing to discipline them. As a parent, you have to nurture them in love as you ensure they are growing into responsible adults. That means you put in place clear expectations as you enforce them accordingly. When it comes to disciplining your little one, you have to show them where they’ve gone wrong and explain why they deserve the punishment they are receiving.
It would be impossible to show authority without communication. As a result, ensure you know the level of understanding of your baby and communicate to them effectively. The best way to communicate your expectations is by involving them and allowing them to contribute.
Sometimes it’s proper to let your kids figure their issues and find solutions to these problems. When they stray, you come in as a parent to offer direction.
Being a parent is not a destination of possessing all knowledge. There’s no perfect parent. As mentioned at the start, it’s a journey. When traveling to a place you don’t know, you keep discovering new things and learn a lot along the way. You’ll see something and realize, “Ooh, this is what so and so was talking about”. Sometimes you’ll be like “why didn’t anyone mention this to me?”
Therefore, keep learning your parenting duties by day. There are hardly any schools that teach people to become great parents. Fortunately, unlike before when computer technology was not as spread and robust, today new parents can access plenty of education on parenting. Blogs, articles, and videos are online waiting for someone to read and watch them. You can access professional help about parenting anywhere around the globe by using your gadgets at home.
Just like any other life challenge, you need to be focused to overcome what it brings your way. Set goals that you want your kid to achieve and move towards them. Some of the things to include in your to-do list as a parent are providing food and clothing, giving them the best education possible, helping them become more productive in society, and ensuring they are healthy.
When you get a child, your life as a parent will be divided into sections that work towards your child thriving. It can be tough and demanding. And at times, you might feel frustrated and unappreciated along the way. But with focus, you’ll know when to step back and when to accelerate.
When your child is still a small baby, being involved in their life is much easier (though challenging) than when they’ve grown into teenagers. But it is still important to be involved in their life as you can. Sometimes this means rearranging, replanning, rethinking, and reevaluating your strategies.
Being involved requires both your emotional, physical, and mental presence. You can start right away in stuff like homework if they are school age.
Development in children calls for consistency. If you become unpredictable and keep moving the goalposts, then you’ll raise confused children. And guess who will be responsible for the kid’s mistakes when they err? It’s you. When you show love, show it consistently. When you set goals, move towards them consistently. When you start involving in their lives, remain consistent throughout the process.
Well, being consistent is not going to be easy. You can attest to this with how well you are doing with your personal life. It’s a matter of pushing yourself as hard as you can. Force yourself to be consistent.
Another way to avoid confusing your children is by being their role model. Don’t be “preaching water as you drink wine”. Kids learn by imitating what adults do. Even if you are not noticing them doing things like you, they are still doing it. When you respect your partner, they will respect them too, if you treat them with spite, they will learn to be spiteful from you, when you beat them up, they grow into victims or bullies of others. Don’t be reactive at situations. Always seek your intentions of doing something. If you must do something bad, make sure they are not present.
Parenting is not easy but it’s possible with discipline from you and your partner. Single parents also make good parents. You just need to remain focused and love the children in your life. With love, you’ll be motivated to get out of your way to become the best parent there is. The struggle of raising them might be tough now but the rewards will leave you wishing you had more children. Good luck.